My biggest, over all sense from all that you have posted is that you are acting far too hastily and examing things microscopically
and instead I would NOT DO ANYTHING I did not HAVE to do re the marriage or divorce
He served you so, okay, take it easy. You have a lawyer, no need to rush things.
Back way off and work on yourself b/c both of you have greatly over reacted in the past, clearly...and the paradigm through which he is seeing the marriage and you WERE (and I hope are no longer)
needed major changing. IT's not merely a "better communication" or "more sex" type of dynamic.
But there are children and there was at one time a strong bond. Give it time and space to resurface.
Don't let your ego or a wounded pride make any decisions...
of course protect yourself/girls but again there is a way to know when you are acting from a healthy loving place
vs the desire to KNOW RIGHT NOW and fix it or end it...
but some ambiguity exists in all lives... & none of us "KNOW" what will happen in the future. That's okay.
I hope this makes sense - just want to say you won't get all the answers soon, and some of the answers are not there at all...or they change just as you begin to hold them in your hands...fleeting shifting realities...
All you need to DO today, is work on YOU. Don't borrow trouble from tomorrow.
Stay in the moment and make the best of it; life is made up of those 'moments'. Make some each day.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
