Vero, Just wanted to let you know that, like you and Busting, I am torn about the same basic issue.
H comes over every day and we seem to get along fine as a happy family.
And yet, he always leaves and shows no signs of coming out of his crisis (only 10 months though). And he has told me not to have hope.
My gut says, and what I understand from DR and DB coaches is, that I am keeping the road home paved and smooth and showing him my changes and how M would be a very different proposition from this day forward.
OTOH, he is cake-eating, I am in denial about him really leaving us, and maybe going NC would be better for me and the kids.
All I do know is, I still want him around and so do the kids.
So, all in all, I have no help or advice to offer you, other than to say I really GET you - and hope that knowing others are going through the same is some sort of solace.
