Be careful of putting labels on things, m'dear. It's only one facet that you're seeing.
As to why? In two words: pain. control.
Pain from what? Don't know. Control what? Likely the pain and everything else they possibly can since they have little control of anything else. Ironic I know. But you're the bad guy no matter what you do. Have you noticed that yet?
But does it help to know? I think it is unknowable really. I can guess at it as well as anyone, but if he doesn't even know, then nobody else has a chance at it.
But what I do know is that it *is*. That's what you're dealing with. Not the why.
Take the steps you need to protect yourself. Do the things you need to do regardless of his reaction. No more PTSD for you. It's not helping you be you
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
