Good stuff so far. I've been having similar trouble with D14.
I have connected with her through teaching her to drive.
Because I'm in a remote area, she doesn't like to come out to visit for more than a day trip.
There is a concert coming up that she would really want to go to, but at $85 a head... we've decided since it's an outdoor concert, we're gonna crash it just outside the gates just to listen.
Every opportunity I get to talk to her about the sport she's currently participating in is fair game as well as going to her events.
Apparently the Zoo or park are good places to go. I'm guessing there are boys there to oogle at.
Remember, she'll probably be embarrassed to be with you in public, so try to be fun, but not draw too much attention to the both of you from others.
D14 will also, sometimes, discuss the love of her life. He's dumped her twice now and he has come back a third time. This time, I'm trying to be supportive and keep my mouth otherwise shut and my ears wide open. They make me nervous as a couple, he's two years older, so I'd rather her talk to me about him than to shut that convo down by saying something that will piss her off.
D14 will also let me take her clothes shopping, sometimes. I get to wait in the car at the mall and she texts me when she's done... lol... not quite, but if I don't mind my Ps and Qs, she dumps me in a second.
I also make an awesome home made beef jerky that I can bribe her with, sometimes. She loves beef jerky and it's a heck of a lot cheaper if I make it myself. Bonus that she actually likes what I make.
The one thing I do have to watch is that when D9 is with me, D14 tends to dominate my attention. It really puts D9 out. So it is really important that I give D9 full on attention as much as I can and also nice that D9 and I get a lot of one on one due to D14's social calender.
And texting her every once in a while on topics that do interest her or just for some banter appears to allow us to connect. I just try not to over do it.
