I'm a new person

[BklynMom]

I humbly disagree with Val.

Right now you are trying to restore your marriage and do what works. You have spent the past year having him come over whenever was convienent and he was able to pretend he was not leaving his family.

This strategy over the past year it appears has not brought you closer to r.

I think you should try a new strategy which would have the added benefit of allowing you to detach. Try it for 3-6 months and if there is no shift in your h attitude you can reevaluate

Val thoughts were much more karmicly aligned but just thought I would add my 2cents for what it's worth