Has anyone been concerned about the welfare of their kids whilst in the care of their MLC spouse?
It may be my pregnancy hormones making me a bit panicky, but whilst I am letting DH do his thing etc. and I am concentrating on baby's arrival and the kids, I don't feel I can trust DH to do right by the kids at all. When baby comes I am going to be even more scared.
I feel that his overriding instinct would be to disrespect my wishes than consider my wishes are actually for the welfare of the children. Where I asked him nicely to set privacy settings on a photo he published publicly on FB of the kids, he's ignored the request, so internet safety for the kids is not important to him.
I told him I'd bought a new car seat, because the old one was too old (10 yrs) and advice (in the UK) is not to use the same car seat beyond 5 years. The old one happened to still be in the house and he wanted to take it to put it in his van. I reminded him of the point I'd just made. He said nothing, but when he took the kids out, I straight away got the car seat out of the house, because I didn't feel I could trust him not to take it.
I worry because of his current behaviour about how to place what I would consider reasonable boundaries regarding the kids. I haven't dared discuss anything with him, I am waiting until matters are instigated by him. But I don't want him to take the baby anywhere by himself from newborn, because I hope to nurse and also first few weeks I wouldn't feel comfortable with baby being away from me. I would want me and baby to accompany him taking the kids out, so he could have baby time, but I am also there. But I worry that he may take the view of "you don't tell me what to do with my child" and just walk out with the baby or do something stupid.
My kids are my absolute weakness, everything I am doing is probably more so to ensure their safety and well-being than to actually have DH back at the moment. I know I am probably being extremely neurotic. You get people who say things like "he wouldn't do this or that to you". But his behaviour right now kind of proves to me that he could. I think I would have felt safer if he had completely abandoned us.
