Yes! that's exactly what she's saying. She said to make his time when he's around me fun and happy. I told her that sometimes I worry should I be dark, should I detach, should I not pursue. And she said he sounded really confused (as does your H, SS) and to not shine a light on his confusion or his contradictions, let him work all that on his own. If he does bring stuff up, make a joke and be light hearted.
So my head says this all insane, but honestly why not? What's it gonna hurt to try it Cheryl's way? She did seem to really "get" him...which makes me think he's not as uncommon as I thought.
