My only suggestion is this.

Stop trying to show her that you love her. You are taking an action meant for HER and making it about YOU.

The main difference between conditional and unconditional love is that unconditional love is without expectation, without wanting praise or notice.

It's some you just do. It's a choice you make.

So...What would unconditional love for your w look like?

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.