My husband and I are living apart now (an 8 hour drive). One of the things I'm concerned about is how we can ever work on us without seeing each other. How did you deal with the distance?
Well...well...LITB I am so happy I came upon this news. I pray that your family will be fully restored!
On that note, I would like to encourage everyone not to give up or give more of your children to your spouse in a separation or a divorce because you think it will win you the favor of your spouse. Use other things to gain favor not your children...it could be a mistake you would regret in the future.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
LITB, would be fantastic to read a summary of your sitch as Accuracy suggested.
Take care, busting
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Well...well...LITB I am so happy I came upon this news. I pray that your family will be fully restored!
On that note, I would like to encourage everyone not to give up or give more of your children to your spouse in a separation or a divorce because you think it will win you the favor of your spouse. Use other things to gain favor not your children...it could be a mistake you would regret in the future.
sandycay,
Thank you for dropping in. I have never forgotten your advice that I did not follow in the beginning. You were absolutely right.
How are you these days? I hope you are well.
Take care.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Today my sitch has come full circle and the next chapter begins..
My W flies in tonight and will be out here for 10 days. I am obviously ecstatic to put this mess behind us and start building a solid foundation for our new M.
I will be picking her up at the airport tonight and we will be spending the night in the city. Tomorrow I will officially be putting her wedding ring back on her finger. Then we are going to pick up our children for lunch. More importantly, to let them know that we are once again a family unit.
I did get offered the job that I interviewed for last month, however the offer was not sufficient enough to justify my relocation. There wasn’t much desire to move to NM anyway. Thankfully my W realizes that my career is going well here and the Bay Area offers the best opportunities for our family. She will be moving back out here at the of July.
On another note, I began to summarize my sitch in hopes of helping others. As I began to re-live the pain, I don’t feel it is best for me at this time to look back. Perhaps I will be up to doing it at some point. Hopefully I can help others by providing what I learned throughout my journey.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Congrats, LITB. It is a hard-fought victory for you and your family. Putting the ring back on will be a great moment....hell, I don't even know if my W hasn't sold hers!
It has been quite a ride, not only my M, but life in general over the last 3 years. Life has a way of humbling us.
Hope you both are well.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Hey - two questions have been floating in my head regarding your situation (again - I pretty much read every word). You surely don't have to answer if you don't care to.
1.) You stated later in your situation that you had begun dating someone else. How was that for you? How did it make you feel about yourself and your situation? How did your W take it (I recall she was happy for you initially, but did that change?).
2.) There was a pretty long period of time when you dropped off the boards for a bit. It would appear a lot of things were going on at that point. How were you spending that time? Did you interact much with your w then? What was the R like?
On another note, I began to summarize my sitch in hopes of helping others. As I began to re-live the pain, I don’t feel it is best for me at this time to look back. Perhaps I will be up to doing it at some point. Hopefully I can help others by providing what I learned throughout my journey.
I completely understand, LITB. It took me a long time before I could talk about my sitch, and it's STILL painful to go back and read my journal for that period, and it's been 5 years now.
Enjoy your visit; I'll be praying that it is everything you hope it will be, and that you guys will continue to make real progress.
