I agree with putting the oxygen mask on ourselves first.
BUT
Do the kids love seeing their dad in the morning? Does it brighten their day the same way it does his?
The main thing I have learned through this journey is life is full of motives and perspectives.
IF you're kids are happier, more loving children because your H decides the spend the morning with them - that is such a blessing.
There are people on this board whose WAH abandoned his kids.
I say this not to minimize your pain. It must hurt like hell and I honestly can't imagine (I don't have kids)
But I do believe you have the power to focus on the positive that your H wants a relationship with his them....
.. and although it is super painful for you in this moment in time... I think this would be an instance that 20 yrs from now when your D is walking down the aisle on her wedding day and her dad gives her away....
... you will say to yourself.. I'm so glad I made that choice so long to not let my pain get in the way of their relationship.
KWIM?
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
