I am not going to give up even though it gets hard sometimes. I realize that this is hard on W too. She is the one that was hurt. I also want to keep this all together for our D. She once told my W to "just get over it". Ouch. She doesn't know what is going on specifically, just that mommy & daddy aren't getting along.
When this first happened W said she wanted to be divorced immediately. Her plan was to refinance the house in her name so she could keep it and file right away. I wrote myself a note last week. "She hasn't filed. She hasn't refinanced. She hasn't separated bank accounts. There is still hope. Keep focused and have patience. Be strong. Keep the changes you have made. Be proud of who you are. Not what you have done but what you are inside. You are a great father and no one can take that away. You are fun, caring, loving, sincere, a hard worker, nice, loyal and full of life. You've made some bad mistakes but they don't define you. "
