My story, my progress, my hope

[Tinman]

Hi Mach1,

To address your questions and don’t worry about smacking me if I need it. If I did not care about improving myself I would not be here and I would not be pouring out my life story.
- Why are you going after full custody –
o My XW was diagnosed with MS 15 years ago. She is one numerous narcotics and has been in a steady decline over the last 10 years. She is always tended to be very aggressive and basically mean. She did have good point to but I lost sight of those a long time ago. Over the last two years, since I remarried she has been spiraling out of control. The kids come home with bruises, the hospital, the kid’s school, my wife and I have all made calls to CPS. There are a lot of issues including my XW telling my 12 year old that she does not want her in her home. The really sad thing is that she called my W and I over to discuss things. The XW offered me full custody of the oldest in exchange the wanted sole custody of the youngest. My W’s heart broke that day! I of course said no and we left and my W said “How could any mother say that about her own child”. So XW tells D12 that she does not want her in her home and father does not want her either. She is flat out nuts!
- Why is CPS so heavily Involved
o During one of the visits CPS offered XW in home services and she accepted. So now she had additional people coming over to clean her home, make her meals, take care of her third child (Disabled) and in home counseling. So CPS has now issued a report substantiating abuse.

You are correct. The word consecutive would have ended that. That was last year’s summer battle with the XW and the parenting coordinator addressed the issue and said that they must be taken in 7 day increments. Perfect! This should have ended any scheduling problems.
This year XW decided that her parents should be able to take the kids for a week’s vacation also. I agreed to it as long as it was considered part of XW 3 weeks of summer vacation. XW refused and so we went back to parenting coordinator and then to court. Both ruled against her.
Every year it is something new and something totally unpredictable. I need to learn how to set up boundaries and not let XW interfere in my life if I am to have any hope of restoring my marriage with current W.
Anyone have a good suggestion boundaries with crazy X's?