So sorry. It seems like you are doing the best that you can. Her wanting to have a relationship with your mother right now seems kind of weird given the situation. I can't imagine my husband trying to have a relationship with my parents. Not that they were close but still, he is the one that is divorcing me and separating from us.
Me:29; W:37 T: 6 M: 4 D: 2; SD: 14; SS: 17 H filed D: 6/13/12; H moved out: 6/14/12 H moved back in: 6/28/12 Confirmed EA: 8/12