labug, bustingout - i realized that about not working on the r to safe guard the marriage early on in the sitch. it was like a light went on.

we were so focused and child-centric, or at least i was, that we totally forgot to take care of, as you say, the very foundation within which it was even possible to have the child/children

and yes we are just as responsible for the breakup as the lBS . i said that to h right from the beginning. only slight problem , of course, is that the difference from that point onwards is that the LBS wants to fix that and the WAS absolutely doesn't.

this is a great discussion here. thanks labug. it actually helped me to do a little precious 180 last night. i'm going to go write about it on my thread

aahh - letting go of control - sweet stuff

zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"