Trusting, I'm very happy that you have met someone. You are taking it nice and slow and that's great. I know that you still love your xh, but you know what he's like at the moment and who knows if he will ever be the man you fell in love w/again. There is always hope, but you are doing the right thing in taking it one day at a time.
Your xh may be sensing that you have pulled away and he's trying desperately to regain his footing in your life. He knows that once you have moved on and maybe get into a serious relationship that could move on to marriage, it will be over for him in the way of keeping you on a string.
He knows that his time is growing short because of his own situation w/ow and marriage and he's not sure what is the right path for him. Of course, this is not your problem. He has to work that out for himself. As for the papers being delivered...you are right, he could have mailed them. For some reason he feels that he needs to see and/or speak w/you. I'm sure it's all about him and wanting to be reassured that you are still there, right where he left you.
You are doing the right thing w/respect to your contact w/him. It's time for him to grow up and face the consequences of his actions.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
