You are a smart, strong, confident woman. You will do whatever your heart and mind tell you is right.
When your H comes back, if he wants to know why you have taken the financial protection steps, you can let him know it was in response to the credit card being cancelled. He can't weasel out of this one.
If he really thought it was stolen, the first call should have been to you. By reporting it stolen, he set off a chain of events didn't he?
Oh Opt, I am really praying hard for you, that the Lord watches over you and your D through all of this.
I am going over to Yahoo right now to sign on. I should be on and off my computer quite a bit in the next few days.
I'll provide you whatever support that I can. You have always been there for me - and I will do likewise.
Give your D a hug for me. I know that extra hugs got me through a lot...
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Ok Opt.... Time to call your Lawyer and get the ball rolling...
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
You have not failed anybody. You gave it all you had.. he failed.. By not realizing the incredible woman he had. He failed you himself and your daughter and he is the one who will have to live with that for the rest of his life. he is the coward that ran away... You on the other hand are the survivor... You stood your ground for what you thought was right... You have not failed... You just didnt get the results that you were looking for. But dont forget the results that still happened.. you are a stronger woman because of this. You have learned so much about what it means to be married and what it means to love someone. For that you are a much better person, and someday someone else will fall in love with this strong woman and it will last forever, because you have learned from the past. you will never repeat it now... hang in there. Call the lawyer... cover your butt......Dont give up or in...
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
I agree that you should check and make sure your financial assets are okay, but I do not agree that you should call your lawyer.
You gave your H your word that you wouldn't call yet. Keep your word and hear him out when he gets back. You have waited this long, what is another day or so?
I am going to play devil's advocate again and ask the following:
As long as you have protected yourself, why can't you just sit back and watch what happens upon his return? Take your cues from his behavior - face-to-face. You are reacting to what could be assumptions.
I don't agree with his choice of actions, but take the high road and keep your word. You will know soon enough as to what your next move should be...
I am sure others will disagree with me, but it is just my opinion, based on what I know about you and your character from what you have written in the past on this BB.
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
I agree with Totite and Pam... count me in. Sit tight and see how this plays out. I know how things usually turn out for me when I act on something without having all the facts...
Hugs.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
