My H also asked if my parents hated him after he made his decision for D. I told him they didn't (they don't). It sounds like your H may be worried about being considered the "bad guy" in this situation. You can't really control how he feels about that but you can say that you don't hate him, if that's true, which it sounds like it is.
One of the things my DB coach recommended was not showing any negative reaction to getting the divorce papers (crying/screaming/yelling/etc.). I can do that on my own time. As my coach and many others around here have said - it's just a piece of paper.
25yearsmlc has given you some great advice on the previous page of this thread. Go back and re-read it if you feel like you need a little boost.
