Jamie..I know how U feel Im the one that left a long time marriage ( basically kicked to the curb ) by my hubby...but I had been emotionally gone for a long time..and had been packing and taking unwanted things to the thrift stores and Good will for months....He didnt notice
So I was a WAW... 8 days after I left I got a divorce summons HE was done.........so I became the left behind wife......that was 5 years ago...He dropped the Divorce after much haggling and 2 lawyers involved We were actually back to living together, with a div hanging over my head ( I defaulted.......which means I didnt respond to the Div petition )
He could have taken everything and left me in the gutter...altho I would not have ended up there...still carried my RN license
My Mom came home from Florida and MADE me go to the docs for AD's and hired me a darn good lawyer to fight for my rights....which is why he dropped the divorce............
Long story.. made short.......I heard him tell peeps for the first 12 months after we were back together, " I couldnt have afforded the Divorce because she would have taken me to the cleaners and I would have lost my business's "
Now i'll tell ya that hurt me alot hurt me to the bone....but I continued to use the concepts of alanon and DB and continued to work on myself..............
I'm in a fairly peaceful place at this time......but ya never know what tomorrow brings..