Sometimes it becomes very clear that I invite people into my life in order to solve THEIR problems... thereby avoiding my own...
Every once in a while I do a conscious (or sometimes unconscious) purge.... it helps me tremendously...
Do we really need to be mean in order to ensure we are focusing on our own needs? Is that really how we see the world? ie. If we aren't serving someone else, we really are bad people.
Maybe... pick one personal problem... and focus only on it... for a week or two or how ever long you want to or it needs, in order to be solved... you might be surprised at how freeing or liberating that is... and might further find that once you've taken care of your own need, it is easier for you to help others (within reason) with theirs...
I did pick a problem and focus on it. Thanks for the direction. I am figuring out where I will live, which has been a major source of anxiety for me.
So you noticed I said I feel mean when take care of my own needs. Good call. I am not being mean. I need to do what I tell others and cut myself some slack.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
