ouch!! that would surely be uncomfortable - for at least one of them!

makes me think - we are so busy walking eggshells around them, that we just forget what a normal person would do in a ridiculous situation like that.

though i will warn - be prepared, that if you take that route as KD suggests (and i'm not saying at all that you should or you shouldn't) be prepared that there may be some fallout, and since it involves picking up your s - he may see/hear it.

this is NOT to suggest at all that you shouldn't do something to keep your boundary in place, it's more to make you aware so that you are prepared to handle it. my friend warned me in the same way, right before i set a boundary - and boy, was i glad she did - because what spewed out of h's mouth was so unexpected that if she hadn't warned me i would not have been able to handle it as calmly as i did

zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"