Note - I probably acted more hurried than anything. I had tried the calling her out on it back in April and clearly stating my feelings, and that didn't work. What next, coach?
regarding lessons around boundaries... maybe not...
you know the saying, "keep your friends close and your enemies closer"?
I had a couple thoughts just reading here:
+ first, my position is even closer to NC with my W. When I drop the kids off, I stay on the street by the car and say goodbye to the kids. And as soon as I can, my plan is to have D9 meet me at the car on the street when I go to pick her up.
So I'm thinking, is there a way to get that behaviour from S11. Have him say bye to his mom on the street and also meet her on the street?
+ second thought is, 180 this. What SS said was certainly entertaining, although I wouldn't seek a pawn to play that game. OTOH, why don't you go down to the car to talk to your W while OM is with her?
In the worst case scenario, you could always punch the guy in the head... But seriously, imagine how uncomfortable that might be, for him. He might just choose to tell your W to pick up and drop of S11 by herself. You can always joke to him about some of the eccentric stuff your W was known to do, or other personal info that you and your W shared...
But seriously, imagine how uncomfortable that might be, for him. He might just choose to tell your W to pick up and drop of S11 by herself. You can always joke to him about some of the eccentric stuff your W was known to do, or other personal info that you and your W shared...
