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Originally Posted By: alamo76
Oops, I actually meant 2x4s, not 4x4s. Two very different things!

Thank you unbidden. It's down to the wire now.

jbnati, I think you've chimed in before on one of my threads. Thanks also for your prayers.

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Even if it was just for 4 hours, it was super awesome to see and be with our son. I hope he missed me too (well, I know he does); he kept asking if he could come back to our/my house.


I hope you had a witness with you, b/c that kid does NOT sound afraid or abused.


And I hope you are NOT alone with your w. I would not have any unwitnessed coversations with her. If you feel compelled to explain, then say
--- "well STBXW, I have to have friend/neutral party with me when I see you, b/c I can't take the chance that you'll twist something or make something up in an effort to keep son to yourself- since that is clearly happening already."


Heck, if I were your L I'd suggest your respond to her email games with written pieces of your own, saying things like

"STBXW, you cannot possibly believe this lie" and or "I cannot believe you'd stoop this low JUST so you can uproot our son to meet your latest demanding career goal. Of course I do NOT say this to hurt you but ONLY Out of concern for E..."...see how that works both ways??

But obviously, do NOT do any of this without your lawyers approval b/c I do not want to supplant them in any way.


At best she's an emotionally off balance woman
who IMMEDIATELY called law enforcement b/c of a weird thing her TWO year old son said-

and or who convinced herself of this b/c it VERY Conveniently helps her get her son completely, and effectively removes you from the equation for life...

or, at worst--

& FAR more likely, b/c she functions too well in her other areas to be a lunatic-

she's launching the nukes to get her way & won't stop til she gets it all.

If she dares respond to that w/anger or indignation, straighten her out about who is doing what to whom NOW....not a year ago or 3 years ago but TODAY...

she is attacking you with the most awful of lies.

If your son really said that to her she ought to know better than to believe it so fast AND ACT ON IT...her gun sure was loaded.

But I don't believe it AT ALL.

Read Dorothy Rabinowitz's articles on the McMartin trials or google it. A ton of people went through hell and it was mostly based on a "Salem witch trial" atmosphere, that began with one wacky mother in a divorce/custody battle and sucked in so many innocents. (Sound familiar?)

That mother died of her long standing alcoholism in the 2nd trial...but she had lit the fire. It burned many folks but it also lead to a lot of research on "false memory syndrome" in children, which your wife may wish to create...
One of my brothers worked on the defense in that case despite normally being a federal prosecutor. THAT is how freaked out many of us in the legal profession were. (Yes now and then we L's do good things,& for free!)

I know I'm warning you a lot here Alamo...but I am also praying for you my friend.


I can't wait til this is over for you. Have you shared all your fears with your lawyers?



I had to explain that I'd really love that, but mom was waiting for him.

My poor little man. I hope we get to see each other (tentatively) on Tuesday before the big hearing on Wednesday.



Are you taking this information in? I know it's gross,

but you HAVE TO HEAR US...

I mean geez, how often do we all agree??

((((( !! )))))


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Just a quick update:

Tomorrow's hearing is definitely on. Please have us close in your prayers. Petition to God to provide the judge with wisdom and insight, if such is His will. I also hope not to choke when I make my stand.

Thank y'all for your support all this while; I'll be taking your love and care with me to court.


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God bless you and keep you and your son. May God also intercede into this matter as a partisan and ensure the most just and true result.

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Alamo,

I prayed that all will go well for you today.

Good luck and stay strong.


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Thinking of you today Alamo.

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How did everything go?


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I have been keeping you in my prayers, alamo. Hoping it went well yesterday.


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Hey Alamo

Please come up for air and let us know you are surviving the courtroom drama.

We are all rooting and pulling and praying for you. Truly we are.

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Hey everybody, it's been a long, emotionally dark week, but it's far from over. In fact, courtroom-wise, we haven't even gotten into the meat of things yet.

To keep things short and simple, here's what's transpired over the last few days:

Wednesday was the big day. Well, we knew beforehand that our hearing was in contention with a higher-profile writ the judge may or may not have to preside over. Basically, they started late, so we had JUST enough time to examine/cross-examine my witnesses.

The judge tentatively scheduled us for Thursday pm session, but that was cancelled due to the writ running overtime. So now we're definitely schedule for Monday pm (with just enough time for my wife's examination) and Tuesday pm (my examination).

A few more days of anxious waiting, praying and forgiving.

In terms of the investigations into my alleged abuse of our son: - The interview with our son and subsequent report by the court-ordered child psychologist found no evidence of sexual abuse, abuse or parental alienation
- The interview conducted by PD/CPS (got the call from them yesterday) also found nothing for them to make charges

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Despite the heart-wrenching week of being in court, seeing my wife's grief, seeing our son only twice, etc, I have every reason to praise God!!! He took away a lot, but has given more back (IMHO). He has been our protector and has been downright pretty darned awesome.

Come Tuesday, I know a huge target will be painted on my forehead and my wife's attorney will do her best to bring up all my past negatives and hope they gain traction. They will try to downplay my positive changes, my recovery and my goals. Even with all the role-playing my lawyer and I have done, I just hope I don't crack/choke.


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Originally Posted By: alamo76
In terms of the investigations into my alleged abuse of our son: - The interview with our son and subsequent report by the court-ordered child psychologist found no evidence of sexual abuse, abuse or parental alienation
- The interview conducted by PD/CPS (got the call from them yesterday) also found nothing for them to make charges


This is great news Alamo. I personally think this is huge. It is a blow to your W's credibility.

Continued prayers for you pal.

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Come Tuesday, I know a huge target will be painted on my forehead and my wife's attorney will do her best to bring up all my past negatives and hope they gain traction. They will try to downplay my positive changes, my recovery and my goals. Even with all the role-playing my lawyer and I have done, I just hope I don't crack/choke.


You will be fine. Believe in yourself to stand strong in what you believe and that will be a good start.


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