There are a lot of more knowledgeable people on the site who can give you R advice, but I'll try to help with moderation.

It can be very frustrating to have to wait until your posts appear. For now, use the site to journal anytime you think of having any R talk with your H. I'm not one to call friends and vent, plus my H was my best friend, so it's been very helpful to get it all out here.

The more frequently you post, the sooner you will get off moderation and then your posts will appear instantly, increasing your chances of getting replies.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13