hi lost,
sorry to hear about your sitch. plus side is that you are becoming a better you and seems as though w is noticing. keep it up. patience is key here.

I'm very curious. what did you do that she believes is just as bad a cheating?
best of luck to you

M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017