T, since you've been where I am you give me hope. Clearly you are doing quite well now.
Bklynmom, I'm so sorry that you're in the same boat. It really stinks, doesn't it? Hang in there. We'll make it through with the help of all of the wonderful people on this board.
I'm working hard to regain some perspective, count my blessings, etc. I can't believe how much energy I've put into understanding a man who doesn't care to understand himself. I really need to shift that energy into healing me. I guess part of healing is understanding what happened and relieving myself of the burden of failing. That's taken awhile since the only effort my H has put into me and our marriage is making sure that I understand that this is all my fault and he had to escape.
