It actually was pretty simple: I keep the house and its contents (except his clothes and some objects of sentimental value), he keeps the office and its contents, each of us keep our own retirement account and life insurance policy, I keep the money in the joint account, he keeps whatever he has in his office accounts; each of us assumes our debts.
As to custody: we keep joint legal custody but I have sole physical custody. He can come and visit her whenever he wants... (I cannot remember what my lawyer drafted exactly, but it was pretty usual, she said).
I don't want alimony or child support, except for him to continue to save what he has been putting in her college savings account every month. The account has always been in his name...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
