Indecision and the affair continues (part 3)

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Today will be "interesting". H is back for a couple days and has been continuing to push on the idea of our kids meeting OW.

We are seeing a family counselor today to discuss this. I've told him I will only allow the kids to meet OW if we work with a counselor and they convince me it's a good idea. We are seeing a counselor recommended by my counselor who works a lot with kids.

H and I still haven't clearly communicated to the kids that we're divorcing. He is still in the house and besides his extensive "work travel"...hard for them to tell things are different. He thinks it'd be fun to take the kids to OW's city or have her travel here with her three kids to meet my kids.

She has three kids and is not yet divorced either.

I think it's too soon and our kids need their dad...not a whole new family. I would accept this if we had been divorced 6-12 months at this point.

He also told me he thinks it'd be good for the kids to see an example of a good relationship.

We haven't had an R talk for a long time and I told him how I think I've been incredibly patient with this situation and I have never bashed him in front of the kids. He's putting a lot at risk for a fun summer trip.

He's told his parents about OW. Interesting because I've also opened up to my parents about her as
well. I don't consider it "exposing" as much as being fair to our parents on why we are in a very difficult place. Plus, after a year, I'd argue it is what it is at this point...