When I read that again with the spacing and lol's I should have worded that a bit better. My sense of humor isn't for all either at times a little levity keeps me going sometimes. I do comedy for pay. It wasn't nearly as funny as it was angry.
If I could edit I should have said:
<joke> "But hey, look at the bright side at least she won't be banging the OM for the next 6 weeks! lol <joke> Really? That would make it funny?
New Paragraph Could this possibly get more exciting/any better? roflmao wtf?
And I didn't complete my thought there. What I meant by that is, not only do I have the standard sitch recovery to deal with. From what I have been reading a hysterectomy wreaks havoc in many ways with most women e.g. messes with their emotions/hormones/sets off depression etc. So in short, I'm laughing at the fact that somehow, my sitch got significantly harder by nothing of my own doing this time.
how on earth is this about YOU? It's HER situation that got harder. SHE had the surgery.
You didn't even know she was having the surgery until you told her to send you a check, THEN she told you she was in a hospital after major surgery.
Your immediate thought was about how YOU could get something out of it by visiting her.
I hate that my W is going through this, and I want to be there for her, but she doesn't want me there. Our exchanges have been amicable for months but that makes no matter, she has chosen not to see me since Valentines day.
so, back to YOU and what she did to you. Did you ask her WHY she had the surgery?
Does she have cancer or pre-cancerous conditions? how much pain is she in, or did you not ask that either?
Taken as written I agree, that came off as quite crass hopefully above gives it more context.
nope. Not helping at all. Makes you sound more clueless and self centered than before. Sorry but I'm not letting you off the hook. You've been too nasty and angry too long and you still don't see it.
You really seem to think that love or kindness means not losing your temper and sending a check. I'm talking about love given, just to give, not to get.
I have been seeing a counselor, who's advice similar to all of my friends and family is to move on. She is helpful but in all honesty it is more of me venting than anything else.
if venting keeps you stuck in your righteousness or anger then it's NOT helping.
The only times venting helps is
1) to do it HERE and not to someone else
and or 2) to get it OUT of your system. Not to re-hash and get worked up about it again, which I fear you are doing.
I'm sober, career is going well, and I'm GAL and working on myself daily. Outside of this sitch, and my sarcastic/off color sense of humor I'm doing pretty well.
Thanks for your feedback Rick I'm glad to see you are doing well!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
