"But hey, look at on the bright side at least she won't be banging the OM for the next 6 weeks! lol Could this possibly get more exciting/any better? roflmao"
Broken I imagine you are very hurt but this^^^is inappropriate don't u think? I don't remember but are you in counseling? If not what are your thoguhst about counseling/counselors?
Broken, I read this whole thread. Here's my 2 x 4.
You have a lot of work to do and a long way to go, still.
You sound angry. You talk of her with some contempt but really don't seem to see it. That's very unfortunate.
Your "love" for her is pretty much about what YOU want and need. Oh, and The reason your comment about her hysterectomy was "inappropriate" is b/c it was both nasty and self centered. Period.
When you talk with her you nearly always have a request of her. Something YOU want to do or NEED to do or say. Stop that.
You argue FOR the marriage, AND OR against whatever she is doing if it does not involve reconciling with you, and you show your neediness at every turn. She reacts in an honest but polite way to you. But you hurt so
Then you go dark and are proud of that. Going dark IS better than pressuring her the way you do
but it's too bad you see no other options. I think that's the main overrall problem.
With you it's all or nothing. Things go your way or you go dark...and she knows it.
What possible evidence does SHE have that you are really different? And I don't mean words and I sure don't mean money. I mean what are you DOING that is so different?
You gloss over your cheating and then you IMMEDIATELY took up with an OW. How on earth would that look to your w? Despite her affair weren't you trying to prove your love and committment to her and the kids?
And ironically you also met your w the MONTH your first divorce was final.
You go from one to another. Never resting to look in the mirror and work on the one person you DO have control over; you.
You make a big deal about this being the first time you've been alone in over a decade. Um, the word that screams out to me for that, is "co-dependent".
See the work you have to do on yourself as the empowering gift it can be.
Not a burden - but a "To Do" list for your life to improve.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
