And a tiny story. My uncle left my lovely aunt for OW decades ago. OW's h had killed himself when he learned of the affair and uncle actually admitted he felt he "owed it to OW to raise HER kids"...he did not raise his own.
Aunt was a single mom for awhile, then remarried, happily and her 2nd h raised the kids with her.
A funny thing happend Years into that marriage, OW called my aunt. OW (now uncle's wife) asked my aunt where uncle was.
OW wanted to know if uncle was there, with aunt...meaning, uncle was still cheating!!
Aunt said she suddenly had a weight lifted off her shoulders as she realized what a FAVOR her ex h had done for her. While married, She had often horrible stomach aches as she often suspected an affair or wondered where he was, feeling that sick worry and gut wrenching doubt. Once upon a time they were very happy. But uncle was, or became, a serial adulterer.
None of that for aunt though. No more. But OW had it and would always have it...good riddance.
Aunt's 2nd h died after 25 years...she was SAD. But she GAL like no one else I know.
She's been in a committed r now for 10 years. With a younger man of course b/c she's 72 and looks 55.
Uncle? Who knows? But he barely knows his own grandkids and aunt is in there lives daily.
If the best revenge is a life well lived, my aunt "wins".
Your ex w has done you a favor. I don't care if she's "happy", really deliriously so, or faking it or lying about it. OR if she knows the difference. I do not care.
All we care about is how YOUR LIFE IS, and your son's.
Will that ever be YOUR PRIORITY?
This has been going on way too long to pretend it's healthy.
Tad, go get some tools so YOU can be your priority.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
