Because he is in crisis and he thinks that a divorce will provide him with the freedom, independence and happiness he so desperately desires. He thinks that the relationship and you are the cause of his unhappiness.
BTW, if you go back through your thread, you will find a posting from me where I did indicate that I thought he was just going through the motions of the AA meetings just to get you to meet w/him. Mlcers tend to do this just so that they can finally get what they requested or wanted to move ahead. They will promise you the moon, but in the end, the moon is still up in the sky and the promises are broken.
Carve out some addiitonal time and read up on mlc and depression. They go hand in hand.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
