Well...to me anyway. Next time you leave, leave a note on the TV.
"Hi, X, since you're here will you finish up the milk before it goes bad, and take out the garbage along with whatever you came here for. Thanks, Kimmerz"
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And that is what she did. This week D9 didn't want to stay at all. XH asked D12 if she was going to stay and she told him she wanted to come home and no she wasn't staying with him either.
I think his feelings are hurt.
Look, K, you know I'm all supportive of the LBS as long as they are...doing good for themselves and by themselves, growing and not wallowing.
So I'm for you.
With kids?
This is the way it is. You cannot protec thtem their whole life and sometimes, what they want...even if it goes along with what we want... isn't what should happen.
Awww he feels bad. Awww F@#& Him! That is not why I am saying this.
You are dividing time, and as long as he is not a danger to them, isn't neglectful, or anything like that, they should be there.
It falls on him to talk with them. Not you...except...
Your part, you don't even need to do anything...however, you're their mother, if you want it to be easier on them (NOT HIM)? Maybe you should talk to him about it. They are pretty young. If they were older I'd suggest talking to them about talking with him...but they are not.
As for not wanting to share time with the OW and their father? She might be in the picture a long time. Do we like the OW? No...not saying we should, but do we posion the kids against them? I mean that will be a toxic relationship whenever they are around if that happens, what are we teaching our kids?
It's ok to hate?
My boys, know I hate one person. One, and they have in the past told me they hate him too. I said it is not good to hate, try to avoid it. I don't need you hating on him because I do, limit your hate to things or people who are the complete opposite of you, who cause pain because they can and who offer no remorse, except when they are impacted poorly by their choices.
And then my boys said, "What? Those are big words dad!"
Thye got the point though.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
