I had an interesting conversation with my IC yesterday. I never really showed gratitude or appreciation to my kids for doing what was "expected" because that was hmmmm, minimum standards and you only got gratitude/appreciation if you went over and above.
Didn't want to coddle them.
What utter BS! We all want to be appreciated and seen as valuable.
Holding back appreciation in expectation of better output is controlling.
Getting rid of that need to control is a bit like killing ants. You swat and swat and still they come, seemingly out of nowhere. Then you get some spray and that seems to work for a while, but then 1 appears, then 2, then 3. D@mn!
You have to follow them to the source and take action there.
Same with my controlling tendencies, find the source and work on that.
You have no idea how much I needed to read this today. Just no idea. Thank you for being you and sharing what you're learning about yourself. I always learn something about myself by reading your thoughts.
