Kimmerz, My neighbor use to tell me when my xh would make visits to my home. I would document the information and I would walk around my house to see if anything was taken and I would also check my sheds, etc. I would document anything that was taken.
Prior to changing the locks, I wouldn't dust for weeks on end just to see what he touched. He wasn't stupid. If he had mail in the box, he would open it and take the trash w/him. The neighbor went as far as to tell me that he washed his clothes and dryed them on my dime. As soon as my lawyer advised me that all of his personal belongings were out of the house, I could change the locks. So, I moved all of his stuff to the detached garage and changed the locks. I went as far as unplugging the garage door opener that he had the remote for because I because to notice things were disappearing that I had purchased after he left. Was he angry when he tried his remote and keys? The neighbor said he stomped his feet and left. I was fortunate to change the locks when I did because he had planned to have his friends come over and take all of the furniture three days after I had the locks changed. Guess what? It didn't happen.
Did I tell him what I was doing? Nope. When it came time for settlement, I pulled out my documentation and my receipts and he either had to return the items or pay for them since they were purchased after he walked out. He wasn't too happy about it, but that's life and I wasn't about to supplement his new lifestyle with spanky pants.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
