Are you planning to respond to his email at some point? The reason that I am asking is that you put the "deal" on the table when you sent the email to him with the following: "Now I could graciously decline as you did but I am willing to do the meeting in a trade. You go to 3 AA or Al-anon meetings and I will agree to a meeting? What do you think?"
As I recall, your h was more than happy to go to the meetings and even had you go along w/him...so now, I believe it is your move to agree to the meeting.
I had a feeling he would do the meetings that you specifically stated in your email and then want the meeting. You now owe him a response and you should seriously think of owning up to your part of the deal. Whenever we, the lbs, put something on the table or threaten them w/something, we have to follow through or they will know that we are just bluffing and that will make them that much more determined to move forward w/a divorce or make life even more difficult for us.
Whatever you do, follow through on what you say you will do. Don't play games because this is very serious stuff and none of us wants to see anyone hurt unnecessarily when it comes to mlc, family and finances any situation.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
