Tad, Sorry to hear the news, but there is nothing you can do but work on yourself. I wouldn't even broach the subject w/her, since she's not told you about it.
Tad, I'm w/the rest of the posters...you are free to do whatever you what and when you want to. No more analyzing why she's saying this or that. You do not owe her any explanations for anything that you do, except if it's about the children.
Just think, her odd ball behavior will now become someone else's issue...not yours! Time to clear the cobwebs out of your mind and look forward...time to fully live your life.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
