It's reading Divorce Remedy that lead me to the forums! A good book, I have read a couple of times over in the very few weeks of having it! Problem is I can't find it now! I keep hiding it when I know DH is back, I am sure it's hidden somewhere logical!
Thank you for the links, I will definitely get to them, it's going to take some time, like forward said I am more pre-occupied at the moment with the baby and the kids. I am following most of the advice, I don't ask questions, DH initiates most of the conversations,even though I keep a pleasnat, aopne and friendly face when he is here. I certainly don't get myself in knots over him. I have too many "important" things to think about, which don't actually centre around DH! :p
I agree with how things will be percieved by DH as controlling. I have never controlled him (in fact the more I reflect the more I realise how controlling he was of me!) I never have been and have gone out of my way to ensure I can't be accused of being so now. (Well I can be accused of it, but I know it is not the case!) An example is where a friend suggested I make it clear he is not to contact OW whilst in my presence. I can't do that, that would be controlling. He has to make the decision to either be considerate and respectful of me or not. He is choosing not so that says more about him in his present state than me!
I want to also add, just in case people are concerned that I am not keeping matters private. I have a small group of friends that know the situation. I have not even told people (other than the head teacher and the kids class teachers) of the situation, as I will do so when I am ready to disclose after the baby's birth. Then the bare facts will be disclosed, I will not be spilling my guts to all and sundry! My friends know because they are my support mechanism for the baby's arrival, for the kids and for me. These are friends I trust to support whatever decisions I make without trying to persuade me to do what they think I should do.
A good book, I have read a couple of times over in the very few weeks of having it! Problem is I can't find it now! I keep hiding it when I know DH is back, I am sure it's hidden somewhere logical!