Check out the stats on mothers who file/leave the marriage, absent abuse. It's worse for those who leave their kids too...and your wife has lost time w/him.
Where are those stats, out of curiosity? Granted, my wife isn't a mother, but it would still be interesting to see...
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12