I agree. I justify this by telling myself that now that she's out of the house, there will now be periods of time with little or no contact. that means your changes will be more noticeable. And you'll have less tension when she's not around. Is it ideal? No but it is what it is and you need to see the upsides when you can. It's part of having a PMA....know what that is?
Read the books and you will know...
And I want her to know how I feel. WHY? Who cares?
No offense, but SHE is not the person you are to express your feelings to now.
If you want to compliment her in an affirming loving way that somehow isn't pursuing (which is NOT something you are capable of doing yet, sorry)
then later on you can tell her those things to show YOUR change. But atm it'd be clear pursuit AND would look just like a tactic to get her back, not a real change on your end.
For now work on your PMA -please-
the POSITIVE things you feel are about the only thing you should express
and ONLY IF SHE ASKS...
to put it another way-- do you think being miserable/incomplete WITHOUT her, is at all attractive? OMG I'd flee...
Jerry McGuire's "You complete me" doesn't work in real life.
That same thing that was discussed where I think if I say it the right way or say it enough, it will connect. I know it won't and I shouldn't do it.
However, I know I've said it before and she knows what I feel and I should stop.
so you KNOW..."BUT BUT BUT"...but what? You're weak? Gee, that is appealing. Healthy women do not tend to love men who know what to do, but cannot...
So now you've heard it from men and women. Weak men are not attractive men.
Loving men can be (usually are) strong & attractive. But needy men are not.
HOW to be stronger and DO what you need to do and NOT DO what you don't?
Where the head goes, the heart will follow, if we let it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
