I hear you on the guilt about not being the best h you could have been. I wasnt the best wife all the time I could have been.
Here's the thing. After beating myself up good and long, I started to realize a few things.
I asked myself, did I intentionally try to hurt my h or my marriage? Did I realize the things I was doing at the time and choose to do them anyway?
The answer for me was no I did not. Had I known better, I would have done better and I forgave myself.
Because the thing about guilt is that is weighs you down. It saps energy better spent on becoming who you want to be.
So, use the knowledge you now have to do that. Not out of guilt, not for your wife or her family, but for you.
When you become the person you were meant to be for real a couple of things happen.
You realize the you need to let go of the guilt because it is no longer serving you well. You become more confident and confident. And that is what you want your wife to see. Someone with courage, strength and dignity.
So, use the guilt to propel you forward. Take the information you have learned and use it. Then let the guilt wash over you and let it go.
