She is more often saying "I know I'm not treating you fair, or right, and I don't know why....I am confused, and I don't know what I want. I can't stop thinking about the years I've wasted, or how mad I am at you for things long past."
Sounds exactly like my H actually. It dawned on me yesterday that they remain comfortably confused and indecisive BECAUSE THEY CAN. There are no consequences to their indecisiveness so they stay right there for as long as they want. I once asked my dad if he had a MLC. He said he didn't because he just didn't have the time. I asked my mom the same, and she said the same, "Who has the time for that!" Very true - it's because our S's have way too much time to dilly-dally and zero consequence for the dilly-dally.
I've been trying to figure this one out so I look forward to hearing what people here have to say.
