That may be the best analogy ever, LITB. I am always looking for answers, meaning and explanations. In my career, it has served me well - in my personal life.....not so much.
I will chalk it up as a deposit/positive at the end of the day. Truthfully, there is nothing less attractive that me being a siffling wreck of a man still pining in front of her. What good would THAT do? She knows my feelings, she knows I still care.....that's about as good as it can get right now.
I had a friend tell me that it looks as if she is trying to open up and talk to me.....she said I need to try to get her to talk more openly and engage her when she says things like "No, I don't think you understand....". She said I should have said "I want to know more about how you feel....".
Ummmm, I am not sure about that. I think I am pretty OK right now letting her lead. I have learned that even my best-of-heart intentions can feel like pressure and end up being more harmful than anything else. I just don't think I am in a place to say "I am here to talk if you want to"......could be seen as pursuing. Thoughts?
OLW - it is sad that it took all of this to change, but I am glad that I am. I really want to be better for my W, but if not her someone. The Crimson that existed a year ago pretty much does not exist anymore.
I am always looking for answers, meaning and explanations. In my career, it has served me well - in my personal life.....not so much.