I think he meant it. He has ALWAYS valued the fact that he is friends with people he's known since he was a kid. But he doesn't really open up to people. I think when he says "you're best friend" what he really means I opened up to you. But I think as he opens up to someone new...this connection isn't needed anymore.
But that could just be me looking at it from a victim role.
If I were looking at this pragmatically from an outside stand point, I would say that he and I have always said we had a great friendship and had fun together. And when I was the WAW we still very much wanted to be friends. But right now between my panic attacks, and pursuit, his hurt over my R with someone, and his current R, it's difficult to have a friendship.
I think I get what you're saying.
3 months ago I was rejected when I wanted to work on the M, and now I'm being rejected in friendship, and all those rejections are making me angry because I can't control them, and they aren't happening on my timeline. I feel shut out on all levels. And yet I'm still getting drips and drops of the side of him that made me fall in love with him.
To answer Broken I'm not in love with him anymore. I love him as a person...a person I see with faults and positives.
If nothing else, I will say that I am so happy he and S are having a relationship and spending time together. It's his SS and it reaffirms who I believed he was. I also have lately had a new appreciation for how he conducted himself throughout or separation even after meeting her and dating her while he was living here. He told me he respected me and I do think he did/does.
Sorry Kaffe you can cut to the point with very good questions and I have to waffle about to sort myself out...
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Why would you otherwise want to be friends with someone who is not being friends with you...?
because I want him in my life. But maybe just like he needed some time to come around to spending time with SS, he just needs time to see what a friendship with me can look like while he's in a R.
