You can't tell him you're not going to pursue him anymore, you just stop. Don't explain your actions because then they seem like they are part of some plan you're obsessing about.
Just stop sending the emails. He may ask why you stopped and he may not. You are operating from the courteous position of thinking that you have to explain your changes in behavior -- you don't. You will not push him away by refusing to explain, in fact, the mystery may draw him closer.
The LBS is often looking for grand gestures, or major signs of change. Progress is often much slower and more subtle -- it may be happening and you don't notice. When he cuts the lawn and you ML do you feel better or worse? You've established that it's not causing him to recommit, does it have a positive impact on him where you see a positive trend? If not, then decide what to do only for yourself -- if you like it then do it, if not then don't
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
