I told her my night was terrible. In the past, we were separated for five months (8 yrs ago). Since then, I would tell her I knew what it was like to sleep without her and I was so glad she was back in my life. I would bring up the topic of her sleeping by my side as a positive statement to her. Meaning, I am glad she was back in my life.
She told me her night was terrible. The lady who lives above her had an alarm that started going off around 3am and she would snooze it a lot. She was in a new environment, a new bed, etc.
The last thing I told her was that I knew we had to go through this. However, I told her that I needed feed back about us. It may be in a week, a month, or several months, but I needed to know where we stood. I was not going to be in a position to wait around like my brother. (My brother was separated for a year before they finally finalized their divorce.) I've been through a separation before. What I was trying to say is that I'm here and want to work on it, but, I'm not going to wait forever.
I know I'm not supposed to do that, but, sometimes you can't help it. I know today is day one of change which will become normal at some point.
I feel like I'm slowly getting better but it is still tough.
Please provide any helpful advice....I notice I come to this sight several times a day looking for answers. Thanks for everyone's help.
NGUY,
You're still coming across as VERY needy in this exhange, and still looking to your wife to soothe you. You need to find other areas to get this, as I can almost guarantee you that it will TURN OFF and PUSH AWAY your wife.
Supplication might make YOU feel better, but it's not attractive to HER. I'm assuming you'd still like to attract her back to the marriage, if you can?
