Sometimes it becomes very clear that I invite people into my life in order to solve THEIR problems... thereby avoiding my own...
Every once in a while I do a conscious (or sometimes unconscious) purge.... it helps me tremendously...
Do we really need to be mean in order to ensure we are focusing on our own needs? Is that really how we see the world? ie. If we aren't serving someone else, we really are bad people.
Maybe... pick one personal problem... and focus only on it... for a week or two or how ever long you want to or it needs, in order to be solved... you might be surprised at how freeing or liberating that is... and might further find that once you've taken care of your own need, it is easier for you to help others (within reason) with theirs...
