TIME for a change

[Broken74]

Man, yesterday was a struggle... Illogical that it was a struggle but it was... On a positive note I didn't reach out though and kept the no contact streak alive!!! (18 days and counting a new record!!!) I thought of a lot of things I wanted to say to her, but didn't, kinda pointless to go into those here since it's after the fact I guess... Nothing negative, I wanted to say "Happy Father's Day to the Mother who does it all", but I stood fast and did not like that would have made a flip anyway... It does hurt that given the things I have done as a stepfather that no one acknowledged my existence on this day, but that's what I expected.

So I could use some help/opinions though...

18 days of no contact and it feels like an eternity and the chances are more likely I may never have another significant interaction with her at all. She pulled back toward me with her sisters medical issue and we were talking. We talked during our anniversary which was pleasant but she came out with the fact that she thinks she may be falling in love with OM douchebag... I didn't get upset at this and kept my cool which is a 180. Then we exchanged a couple of pleasantries toward the end of last month and total radio silence, nothing from her or me at all.

I am wondering if her last reeling back was just a touch and go to see if I was still here, and of course I was... I'm going to maintain my current path (which this time doesn't appear to be working), and hope something changes sometime. I swear though I got this woman by relentless pursuit originally so doing nothing seems like a bad idea. How long should I expect this to go on? I'm about at my wits end.

So the things "related to" us at this point are:
1) She's driving a car that's legally mine but she's making the payments. A 180 for me is that I haven't brought this up within recent memory, stupidly made the payment last month since money was tight for her.
2) I still put money in my stepkids 529k accounts for them. Truly I am not doing this to improve my sitch, but at this point I am wondering if it is counterproductive because that it shows that I'm still "there"? Even though I'm trying to be nice I'm starting to feel that this may be counterproductive and make her keep thinking I'm still a viable "plan B". Should I stop these contributions?

My biggest 180's at this point are totally leaving her alone and not bringing up the car or anything else. One of our last conversations after I helped her financially when things were tight was her statement "wait until we aren't dating in a month then you'll throw that up in my face". So I'm making a point not to do that.

I don't know what to do aside from maintain my darkness and LRT which is 18 days strong. This is the longest we have been through this sitch without her contacting me in some way, it feels like I am losing her for good this time. I am still working on me obviously and GAL like crazy and have little free time on my hands. That doesn't change the fact that this consumes most of my available free brain cycles.

What should I do? Thanks in advance for any feedback you guys can provide and good luck to all in your respective sitch's!