LRT - Checking Progress

[LostIn407]

I can tell you the history for me and you can see where I screwed up and made this last longer than it should:

Middle April 2012 (3 days)
I find out about the OM. At first I try to stay together in the same bed and do more things with the W. She doesn't stop seeing OM. I go stay with FIL, we don't talk.

3 days she asks me to come home.

May 2012 (3 weeks)
She gets an apartment. I think it is going to be good for us, give her space. She uses it to go out all the time and spend a lot of time with OM while still wanting to spend time with me. I tell her I won't spend any time with her anymore while she sees OM. Step into what I thought was LRT. Tell her she has until August before I file (mistake!!!!).

Just under 3 weeks she asks me to meet for a drink and we have D3's birthday party. The next week she wants to goto a movie, have more drinks, etc. OM still around. I debate spending time with her but come to my senses and stay away.

June 16, 2012 (two weeks)
Haven't done anything not family related since D3 birthday. She asks me out just the two of us. Was a good time. I can tell she sees I am detaching.



My W is going about every two weeks between checking her position with me. I keep falling for it, but between each time, I go darker and GAL more. I have to force myself to say no to her more, let her think I won't always be there.

She is noticing the changes in me and admitting them. I no longer initiate any contact. I do not invite her out unless it is family related as I don't want to deprive my Ds of experiencing certain things without their mom present.

I do not plan on the W needing to check her position with me for a few weeks, so just going to GAL. Going out of town this weekend. Working on plans for the next weekend.


Detach/dark/dim/GAL does work, if you let it. Just get over the fear you will lose them. You may lose them anyways, so concentrate on yourself. Be selfish.