"it is often written on this board about how, if they sense us withdrawing even the slightest - they move a little closer - all they are doing is checking to see if you're really still there - when they feel you are, then they can happily withdraw again -
it's only when you finally detach that they really start thinking about what they are doing. but the detachment doesn't come easy or quickly - it takes a long drawn out process."
The beauty of this forum is that you can find answers in other people's threads.
This is exactly what my W did to me this weekend and I fell for it (again!) like a fool. She saw me detaching and moved closer to see where she stood with me. She saw that her hooks were still in, so I anticipate she will withdraw from me again.
At least I have identified the main issue I have left to work on and can work on keeping myself out of these situations.
Going to keep on my path. I fell down this weekend, but I am going to pick myself up and will keep moving forward. My recovery time is getting a lot better. In the past if I took a step backward, I would dwell on it and let it consume me. Today, I know I just need to get up and keep moving forward.
It just really svcks when you are looking for any reason, any indication, any sign that things are improving because you want your W back so bad. I can't believe I even considered competing for my W. I saw it as a way to spend more time with my W but when I take a step back, I can see how stupid that is. I cannot allow that to happen.
A big thank you to everyone who posts on these forums. Whether you respond to my thread or another, your words are helpful.
M-40 W-33 D3, D4, SD13 T 9 YEARS M 5 YEARS ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012
