I was thinking of letting him know that I'll come back when/if he wants to work on our marriage. He can live at home and be by himself, which he's not now.

I'm just afraid it might push him over the brink. Or, that he will use it as an excuse to file. 25 says to not do things that are worse for the marriage and keep doing things that are.

What's good for the marriage, in his mind (mind reading but seems so) is to have me out here in the country, on the shelf, waiting for him to decide to R or D. He once said we are in limbo because I didn't want to D.

Why doesn't he file, then??

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing